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More about Autonomy

2/2/2018

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In Hay (2012) I proposed 4 elements to autonomy:

“awareness - being in the here-and-now, knowing who we and others really are

alternatives - having several options for how we might behave, being able to choose what to do

authenticity - knowing that we can be our real selves and still be OK, not having to wear a mask

attachment - being able to connect and bond with other people” (p. 16)

Prompted by students at a workshop in Hertford, I have picked up on material by Drego (2006) and Moodie (2005) and added a fifth that reflects ‘responsibility’ to the original Berne (1964) version of awareness, spontaneity and intimacy:

accountability – accepting responsibility for our own behaviour, recognising that we act based on our own decisions (and that we can change previous decisions)

Drego (2006) had commented on a workshop that had been run by Moodie (2005) about the way that early social responsibility had developed in Scotland, and wrote that Berne's (1972) three-handed position of "I'm, OK, You're OK, They're OK" envelops both individual and social freedoms. It spans both individual wholeness and mutual responsibility [italics added] between individuals and between groups. (p. 90).

Recently, a colleague mentioned how Richo (2002) and Yacovelli (2008) present the components for mindful loving and emotional fulfilment (respectively), and that prompted me to think that we need to add more about ‘the other side’ of autonomy. In his original description of autonomy, Berne mentioned spontaneity, awareness and intimacy - only intimacy has a focus on ‘the other’.

I can see that a more cocreative view of autonomy might include:

  • for attachment (Berne’s intimacy) we need affection and appreciation (Richo and Yacovelli) and acceptance (Richo);
  • for awareness, we need attention (both authors) from others, meaning they are aware of us;
  • for authenticity, Richo has allowing and Yacovelli has acceptance and approval (although her descriptions of these sound very similar to each other).

​I prefer not to use appreciation or approval, as both of these imply that our sense of OKness is dependent on the opinion of someone else. However, affection, attention, and acceptance seem to me to be useful additions to how we think about autonomy.

These ideas stimulated me to look at the five elements I had already to think about how each of these might be presented in a cocreative manner – below is the result:
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  • awareness/attention - to indicate that others are aware of who we really are in the same way that we need to be aware of who they really are;
  • alternatives/accountability – to recognise that we are responsible for how the options we choose have an impact on others;
  • authenticity/acceptance – to emphasise that we can be our real selves, faults and all, and still be accepted by others;
  • attachment/affection - to reinforce the two-way dynamic of how attachment operates.
References

Berne, E (1964) Games People Play, New York: Grove Press 

Drego, P (2006) Freedom and Responsibility: Social Empowerment and the Altruistic Model of Ego States Transactional Analysis Journal 36: 2 90-104 

Hay, J (2012) Donkey Bridges for Developmental TA Hertford: Sherwood 

Hay, J (2014) Extending the Donkey Bridge for Autonomy IDTA Newsletter 9:1 8

Moodie, A. (2005, 8 July). Robert Burns, the Scottish enlightenment & TA. Workshop presented at the World TA Conference, Edinburgh, Scotland

Richo, David (2002) How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Relationships Boston, MA: Shambhala Publications 
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Yacovelli, Dyan (2008) The 5 “As”: Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, and Attention: The Journey to Emotional Fulfillment. Lincoln, NE: iUniverse Inc

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